Take these with you
Guides, checklists and one very useful worksheet
Everything we hand clients, available to anybody. No email address, no signup, no drip campaign. Ask Aaron and he will send them.
- Checklist
The first-meeting document list
Everything worth bringing to a first divorce or custody meeting, and what to do if you cannot get hold of it.
Two pages. Grouped by how hard each document is to find, so you can start with the easy half and stop feeling stuck.
- Guide
What a parenting plan actually contains
A real parenting plan, section by section, with the clauses parents most often forget until it is too late.
Holidays, school breaks, right of first refusal, how to handle a new partner, who books the dentist. Written in plain language with an example schedule for a school-age child.
- Worksheet
The one-page financial picture
The single sheet we build in every first meeting. Fill it in beforehand if it helps you feel prepared.
Assets, debts, income, monthly outgoings. Most people find that filling this in is itself the thing that lowers the anxiety, because the unknown number turns out to be knowable.
- Guide
Telling your children: a short guide
Written with a Portland child and family therapist. What to say, when, and the four things not to say.
Age-banded, from four year olds to teenagers. It is eleven pages and it is the resource our clients come back and thank us for most often.
- Worksheet
Estate planning starter
The questions we will ask you, sent in advance so you can think about them without anyone watching.
Who decides, who inherits, who raises your children, and what happens to the house. Bring it filled in or do not; either is fine.
- Checklist
After the judgment: the closing checklist
The twelve things that still have to happen after a divorce is final, with the ones you can do yourself marked.
Deeds, QDROs, beneficiary designations, insurance, DMV, name changes. Half of them are an afternoon of your own time rather than a bill from us.
Ask for any of these and they arrive the same day
There is no download gate because a person deciding whether to leave a marriage should not have to give a law firm their email address first. Send a line to Aaron and say which ones you want.
hello@harborfamilylaw.com
Places that are not us
Some of what people come to us for does not need a lawyer at all. These four are where we send people, and we send people there often.
Oregon Judicial Department family law forms
The official statewide forms, free, with instructions. The right starting point if you are doing an uncontested matter yourself.
Multnomah County family law facilitator
A free courthouse service that helps you complete forms. They cannot give legal advice, but they can stop a filing being rejected.
Legal Aid Services of Oregon
Free civil legal help for people who qualify on income. Worth calling before you decide you cannot afford representation.
Oregon State Bar lawyer referral service
A referral and a thirty minute consultation for a small fixed fee. Useful if we are full, or if your matter is outside family law.
Start with a conversation, not a commitment
Twenty minutes on the phone, free, with somebody who will tell you plainly whether you even need a lawyer for this.